The month of love

    The month of February ...oooh love is in the air. Ah yes,the righteous people out there might say, "EVERYDAY is VALENTINE'S! And that u don't need to be like the mass commercial suckers out there,making florists and restaurants richer by being participants. Question is, do u REALLY treat your other halves as if it is Valentine's everyday? Ah,there. If u are one immaculate perfect lass/lad who does sweet and romantic things everyday and NEVER takes your other half ever for granted, Goody!!!! Here's the verdict:

U ARE NOT HUMAN.

Which human being is capable of such consistency and devotion? Unless we are all Jesus Christs. So,in a bid to speak up for the commercial businesses profiting from Valentine's and consumers who patronize, I do think if u're the busy type of person that is massively trying to make your name in the corporate world,SCALING the corporate ladder, come on,enjoy Valentine's day and take a chill pill. Even a girl like me who is not a fan of red roses would graciously appreciate a day like this just so,love can be treated with importance. Love at this point,we must conclude is not something that only couples can indulge in. We can celebrate our deep entrenching love for our buddies,our co-workers,friends and relatives. Remember that song in Moulin Rouge: All U Need is Love?

Some might differ and say that these are cringe worthy,cheesy words they rather not be a part of. Trust me. I am your romantic comedy bruiser. My girlfriends know I am the biggest horror/thriller/action fan but when it comes to romantic comedies or those sad korean dramas I just shiver. At one point in my life I was blown away too,by things like martial arts novels-turned drama series,an ala Louis Cha, and even shamelessly to say Qiong Yao. Later the korean heartbreaker Stairway to Heaven finally broke my metallic iron plated heart to pieces.

Haha,u must think,I was trying to be such a cool-as-school freak, but I'd be more glad to tell u the truth. I am actually too emotional and my tear buds get activated too often. I cry at almost anything remotely tragic such that it embarrasses me. I know not many people know I was shedding tears at the scene of that moment,however,the feeling makes me very......EMBARRASSED and I just soak in my disgraceful shame just thinking of all my feminist ideals,feminist mind u, not sexist. Some attribute feminists as being bitter cold and hard spurned women. I just feel the cause to champion at this point would be to fight for the survival and better rights, BETTER,not even equal rights for the unfortunate oppressed women in other parts of the world.

Back to what I was saying.....right. It would put my feminist theories of empowerment to death when I dip myself into this oh-so-sweet delirium. But like every little girl has a fairytale like Prince Charming,so do I.:)

Let me talk about my ideal man today. Actually he was there since a very,very,very,long tine ago. I fell in love with him after he was written.Ha. Yes. When I first read Memoirs of a Geisha some many years ago when it was first published and became an immediate hot seller and then bestseller, I .....fell head over heels in love with The Chairman. I don't know why it became such a befitting role that another disarmingly eclectic man such as Ken Watanabe had to take on such a role. I am sure if u had read the book,u'd understand why I say I have been mesmerized by this character since ages past. It is a character that is wholeheartedly charming,mysterious,seniorand just different. One cannot help but be pulled into that stream of consciousness,that total devotion that is deep set and only expressed through his intense personality. Yes,the chairman is intense. Everything about him spills that. The unsaid words,the unquestioning motives until all is left to a startling revelation at the very end. The endearing,enduring and arduous path to living "happily after" is always a Utopian ideal humans seek but how many make it there? Most cynics would jump to say that is a myth,an impossibility,that romance starts out sweet only to become routine as years go by. Yes and no.

If u're accustomed to honey,and have been drinking sweet honey for ages come, yes, maybe u would have become used to sweetness until sweetness is not sweet but ordinary and normal. It is human. But the question is, is that honey still sweet? Using the variables as constant,providing that honey doesn't change its standard,because it is good quality,no,great quality honey, winner of the mother of all brands, u might,MAY still be too accustomed to taste and find sweetness turning into a bland,and unexciting taste. BUT we know it takes two hands to clap. There is no perfect honey( ha,here comes a pun) and no consistent honey,or variable here. U cannot say that while one may become sick/tired/bored of the taste of honey,because of routine hence u search for alternative or other tastes. Because people change. And the consistent thing is people are never consistent. So, if one were to state firmly that it is human to err or feel bored after years of relationship,then,I have bad news for u,my friend. Philosophically,it doesn't make sense. Because u cannot possibly be bored of something that is susceptible to change. U don't believe me? Well. Look. U the taster can change. Your tasted product honey aka your other half,spouse/girlfriend/wife also changes.

Years ago,as a child I hated eating smoked salmon to the point I would murder anyone who showed me smoked salmon. But people waved it my face excitedly ALL the time telling me it was good stuff. I STILL hated it until one day I just ate smoked salmon because nobody forced me anymore and I tried to understand it on my own. And fortunately it was Good salmon and it suited my taste buds. I liked it,had more of it. Went home and thought about it and now I DO like smoke salmon. So, never say never. U know the scary myth our grandmas used to say: finish your rice,all U'd be married with a pok faced husband. And the ensuing cries of " I WILL never marry a pok faced man...EEEE",many years later u just might find yourself eating your own words. Now,if u think i am wrong,bite me! Because even handsome boys with porcelain faces can become pok faced. The message is clear. People change.

I know I might never meet anyone like The Chairman,but that is why there is magic in novels and the magic does not cease when the book meets its epilogue. The magic will live on,so will love. Let's learn to love love and everything around us,cringe-worthy or not,tacky or not,when u use love to treat another human being,u find power in that. U find power in compassion,U find power in giving. Maybe that is why religion is so amazing. It can turn the stoniest heart to pieces just because. If u don't believe me,do something out of the goodness of your heart,just as an experiment. U will find that without expectation,that feeling within u is healing and soothing.