how to help an anoerexic

When I related about eating disorders I was talking about the past. It's nice that some people are asking me if I am alright, yes i am. And I was sharing because there are many skeletons in all our closets so,most people feel they are weird or freaky and nobody understands them. In sharing this, it is in the hope that people who don't know may understand their likely-to-be sick friends. If u're a friend of a potentially anoerexic person, pls note:

Questioning their diet and being thin will make them feel alienated and not want to communicate with u. Once they feel pushed to a corner,it is done in secrecy. All my binges were done in secrecy only to be felt in guilt later.Do not keep drilling to someone with an eating disorder that she/he is thin. If this was about food,he/she would have heard this a million times,if u wish to help,try to be a good emotional help. Or pray. When u keep trying to force them with food and more food,what happens is that the guilt (if u are their friend) of peer pressure will lead them to want to purge. SO they can eat and show it to u. For goodness sakes,do u know how many people do this? It's so damaging and stupid. Forcing them is dumb,and u,the anoerexic victim is even dumber by purging. The expansion of the jaw condition I related was not a myth,my psychiatrist told me this and said it was an obvious fact.

Another thing. Overexercising can make u fatter. When I overexercised (I still do) I thought I could make it up by burning all the extra calories from my sinful overeating. When I say overeating,it's not an extra slice of toast. It means bags and bags,up to 10 bags of junkfood,and burgers and lots of crazy unhealthy bars and bars of oreos and milkshakes and P&J. I do this in 2 hours. Isn't it disgusting? YES! AND i was so horrified because I knew I couldn't do the purging nonsense. The guilt of these binges threw me into such horror.

WHY did I binge? For other people it may be other reasons. For me it was simple. I have always been high on discipline. When things in my life went wrong,I became confused and started picking at myself. I hated the image of myself and I always felt fat. So I ate less and less and started becoming starved. When that happened the hunger pangs became wild and crazy,when I resisted them I felt I won and was heroic. When I thought I could shake on my discipline a little I lost it. Because my body no longer knew what was going on,it was just ravenous. I ate everything in sight. I probably ate 20 000 calories each time. Whatever the case,my personal life had no form of control,because I was getting hurt and abused so I took it on myself in that self destructive form.

Trust me when I say after U've emerged from the darkest,most horrendous and ugliest circumstances,U'd know what I mean  when I say,focus not on self interest. When the self becomes the focal point,this can mean U take everything so hard so hard humanly U will find yourself cracking and I did.

I know I am like an 80 yr old living in the body of a 20 something,and this is not such a bad thing. Because while I see alot of things going on and people getting mad and angry and your friends complaining about unfairness U just feel,well,let go.Just let go. And love everything. Easier said than done right? That's why u have the remaining years in your life to try to do this. WIth positivity it goes faster and u enjoy the natural essence of life in a more complete way. With negativity,u drag yrself back downwards and u also suck in everything unhappy and unpleasant. Positivity attracts positivity and well misery loves company. It's really a choice.

HOW TO GET BETTER FROM eating disorders?

Learn to eat like a baby from scratch. When u're upset or feel fat,just stop weighing yourself and stop staring at the mirror.I write poetry,I write music.I paint and I cook. I go to the beach,run around flying a kite. I visit my friends and I tidy up my house.

Don't be scared of people anymore. Even if they REALLY are bad,just know they can be equally scared of u and it's a chain reaction. It's time to say I AM REALLY THE KICKASS BOMB!

Take up kickboxing. U really have no idea how great that is. It makes u feel so "released" and enjoy the restricted food u forbade yourself to.Order it and feel empowered. IT IS very empowering for an anoerexic person to order a "wrong" plate of food.And lastly if the need to binge and purge is unbearable TELL A FRIEND.