不知道從何時開始，在很多朋友或家庭聚會都會聽到家長們或長輩們問候的第一句話是：「哇，你肥了很多！」（然後伸手摸你的肚子）或「哇，怎麼瘦了很多！」（也是伸手摸你的肚子）。因為做幕前，所以慢慢接受了這個文化。但其實無論如何，沒有人問過你這個一年見一次的 Auntie 意見，也沒有人喜歡無端端給摸肚子或臉的。昨天，我看見一位 Auntie，對著一個比較圓潤的小朋友 （大概 10 歲）的媽媽大聲地說 （好像那小朋友聽不到一樣）：「哇！你仔仔好肥窩！手臂仲粗過你！」（然後伸手摸他的臉跟肚子）。我看到那個小朋友很失落，只是裝作沒關係的繼續玩玩具。小朋友的媽媽也感覺很尷尬，立刻抱著兒子親一口。看到小朋友那麼不開心，我也嘗試幫他挽回一點尊嚴，說，「不是啊，他還是那麼可愛和靚仔！還十分愛運動！ 」。人生有那麼多重要的事，為甚麼要第一句就批判比人的外表呢？為甚麼不關心一下人家工作/家人/今天過得開心嗎？ 我們人與人之間的對話務必要那麼膚淺嗎？ . . . Food for thought: Don't know when it became socially acceptable for people to start conversations by commenting on weight gain or loss. Being in my industry, I hear comments all the time about myself (not saying that's OK either). However, yesterday, I witnessed an "Auntie" commenting on a little kid (around 10 years old) on how fat he was and how big is belly is (and then proceed to touch is belly and cheeks). Since when was that a kind gesture or a cute hello? It can be damaging to a kid's self esteem in so many ways. I immediately endeavored to rescue a bit of the kid's shattered dignity by complimenting him on how athletic he was (he was doing jumping Jack's at the time). There are better conversation starters than that. Shoutout to all of you who have been emotionally abused like that before! Stay strong! Their opinions don't matter. Smile on! ? . . .

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